The first thing you should is to make them feel that you are there to help them. If he or she refused to speak out, dont force them. Normally the victim will tend to be quiet and try to isolate themself from you and the family members. They will locked themself in their room and refused to go out or mixed around with their friends.
However, should you success to make them talk to you. Dont intefer, let them speak out what they felt inside them. Should they cried when they voice out how he or she felt, let it be. They will feel much better after they cried.
Dont tell them its their faults. It will make things worst.How would you advise a friend who has been a victim of sexual assault?
Hey are you Dr.Z
sexual assault is something which happens without the concerned person's consent. if that has been the case happened with any of our friends, there is no need to panic. best thing one should advise is that person should carry on as she/he was before, as if nothing has occurred on her/him, fully forgetting the incident, because it was only an accident. definitely, one should comfort the person with kind words and action which would boost and encourage that person to lead a wonderful life ahead. in life, it is natural, certain things do happen which is beyond our control, it doesnt mean, the whole life is ruined, in fact, it starts there. every person has a right to enjoy their life to their fullest satisfaction. a friend is always a friend, and one should support and ensure that our friend is going to enter into a golden period of her/his life with so many good things to come forward. life is so pleasant, if we all understand each other well and help each other to progress.
Let them know in the most caring and concerned way that if they feel they can report it they must go to the police as soon as possible. Don't advise anything unless he/she specifically asks you for it. Let them know you will support them no matter what they decide. You might need to just ';be'; around them if they trust your company and not force any conversation about it unless they want to talk. Trust is absolutely pinnacle so do not abuse it by talking to other folk about it without their express permission. Keep a close eye on them until you are sure they are dealing with it and do not need your support.
Listen if they want to talk. Even when they talk, don't push for details, check and hold curiosity. They will need a lot of love, patience and understanding.
I will be friend/ date to them.
well that's a hard one as people act different too that kind of thing when it happens to them. some go on with their lives and some just cant get over it and it takes over their lives.
i myself had had that happen twice in my life time,once when i was 16 and then again at 30, the one at 30 was a cop and there was nothing that i could do about it, as it was a small town and nobody belived me. so i do not trust too many police.i never dwelled on all of that as it can ruin your life.to me it happened nothing can change that so get over it.just be there for someone if they need to talk or cry ,that's all you can do.
If they were my friend b4 tht happen i still would b their friend bt i would make sure they got sum counselin coz tht sum traumatic ****
I would let them know that I was there for them, no questions asked, no matter what.
I would allow them talk, about ANYTHING, if that's what they wanted.
I would allow them to sit in silence, if that's what they wanted.
I would hold them when they cried.
And I would cry with them.
I would tell them that it is NOT THEIR FAULT! also not to change their appearence at all. Rape isn't just about sex, it's about control.
Playing Devil's Advocate it would give me an intense sense of satisfaction if my victim cut her hair or changed attire. ';When life gives you lemons make lemonade';
Also whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
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