Please advise on how to give advice to someone who is trying to conceive?

I have a friend who has been trying to conceive for almost a year now. Well, she has asked me some questions on how I did it this time around. (We both have 4 year old girls and I have a 4 1/2 month old girl also.)





I really don't know what to say to her. What would YOU say?Please advise on how to give advice to someone who is trying to conceive?
As I am sure you have heard.. one of the best things you can do is stop trying. I didn't believe it but it works. Your body is stressed and tense being on such an emotional roller coaster for so long. Take a break and give your body a chance to rest and recuperate. Once things get back to normal you will have a better chance at conceiving.





A couple of other tips:


Make sure the guy waits a couple of days in between ejaculations. This gives the sperm a chance to build up and become more potent.


Prop some pillows up under your butt as soon as you are done and stay in that position for at least 20 minutes.


Make sure you use the missionary position with you on the bottom. Less chance for it to come out.





Most important.... Remember, even though you are trying to make a baby, it is still a beautiful thing between you and your partner, and something you should both be enjoying. Although timing, temperature, %26amp; position are important, romance, pleasure, %26amp; enjoyment are just as important. It is easy to loose sight of that when you are so focused on starting a family. Try focusing on each other %26amp; the rest will come.





GOOD LUCK!!!Please advise on how to give advice to someone who is trying to conceive?
With human fertility there is really no way to know for sure when or if a woman has or will ovulate, otherwise the birth control companies would be out of business. Little wonder that you don't know what to say, since most people who conceive without really trying hard, think that as long as you have sex, it just happens.





Many of us, of course, know better than that. I have my own ideas about why it is so difficult for many people, but that is another topic.





There is a natural way to stimulate ovulation that worked for us. Send me email if you want info which you could either tell her or forward to her.
Sometimes you can do everything right and it's just a roll of the dice. Your friend is probably hurting a lot since you managed to have your second while she is still trying. Just try to be there and be understanding of how difficult it is for her. Also, there is such a thing as secondary infertility, so it might be time to bring the doctor in for an evaluation.
If it has been a year, most docs recommend that you go in for a checkup, to see why you haven't succeeded in a year. If you are over the age of 35, then they say to go in after TTC for 6 months.





She should check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It talks about using OPK's, charting your BBT's and cervical fluid, so that she can time her baby dancing appropriately.
Do you both have a common *thing* that makes it hard for you to conceive? If not, I would've just said to her, ';well, we just had sex at the right time.'; Not trying to be silly but how else would you answer that question?